How I found my passion & how you can, too! — @phetteogburn

Heyyyy…and, did y’all enjoy the weekend? Mine was spent having a sleepover for my almost 8 year old (her birthday’s tomorrow, 9/15). They had tons of fun and actually didn’t stress me out as much as I thought they would.

As I was cleaning up the mess my daughter made hiding in my closet as the others seeked (yes I said it) her, I found on the floor 2 pieces of paper where I wrote down the results to a personality test. I’ve taken a gazillion of these tests over the years, but this was the first one that registered. This was 2 years ago.

According to the test, I am an:  INFP – Introvert, Intuitive, Feeler, Perceiver.

Introvert = I like to spend time alone, and I listen more than I talk.

Intuitive = I get bored quickly and I like new ideas and concepts.

Feeler = I naturally like to please others, show appreciation easily and desire to be appreciated.

Perceiver = I’m happiest keeping my options open and I have a “play now” work ethic.

The 2 things that stand out in this assessment are:

  1. I would most thrive teaching and counseling and helping others to grow  & develop their human potential.
  2. I would enjoy the process of understanding others as I come to understand myself.

EUREKA!!!!! #2 Is exactly what my Address NOT Suppress Healing Series is about. I did not know, however, that I was walking in this process until I found those 2 pieces of paper and it was confirmation that I’d, in fact, been listening.

So, what is your purpose? Do you know what you are here to do?

I watched a Ted Talk by Adam Leipzig called How to know your life purpose in 5 minutes. This sealed the deal for me. I followed what he said and came up with my purpose. After watching my vid, please check out his, if you or someone you know needs help finding what it is they’re meant to do.

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My many personalities…ALL are authentically ME! @phetteogburn

Hiiiii!!!!

I hope everyone is enjoying this Labor Day. I’m off work today, but I’ve been working on my new home: unpacking, putting up pictures and finally got around to getting my blinds put up. It’s finally feeling like home and starting to look lived in. :-D

This week’s vid is is about my many personalities and how everyone has them… NOT just Geminis –who get a bad rep. We are all multi-faceted and not one dimensional. Having different personalities makes for more fun anyways. :-D

I made this video because I was told that I look mean, unapproachable…aloof, which is to the contrary. I am a serious person by nature and am always, always, always thinking, in deep thought, thinking of a master plan. Those things warrant a serious face, ya know? But moving on, just wanted to share that there are other sides to me, fun sides. And if you see me in these streets, don’t be afraid to speak. Promise I’ll speak back.

Here is a link to the YouTube Channel of the weekly dance/fitness/hustle class I attend: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_bu4R34xYN-jKUwIKMipuw/videos

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What is your pain trying to tell you? @phetteogburn

Hi y’all. I’m back.

The reason for my one week delay is because my laptop is semi-functional and causing me some grief…

laptopFor a couple of days, it wouldn’t allow me to log in. Now that I’m able to log in, I have to be crafty and minimize the programs I’m working in just right AND to the right in order to accomplish anything. :-(  Guess it’s better than not having a computer at all, right?

OK, now about this quick video, I attended a Girls Empowerment Workshop back in 2003, where former Editor-In-Chief of Essence magazine –Susan Taylor, was the keynote. She said a quote that has stuck with me since then: Pain is information trying to tell you something. Whenever you feel anger, sadness, bitterness, etc., whatever adjective you associate with pain, pay attention because that’s information alerting you that something’s amiss.

Let me know what you think. Remember, ADDRESS NOT SUPPRESS. In order to heal, you gotta keep it real. –fee~ETT

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Reflection ~One Year Later: 5 Things I Learned After the Divorce @phetteogburn

Happy Monday!!!!

Let me say off the rip, please excuse the quality of this video. I recorded it late last night with no natural light (which works best for my webcam).

This is not a comprehensive list, but just a few things I’ve learned since my divorce a year and a half ago.

1. Pace NOT Haste
2. Say THANKS but NO THANKS to unsolicited advice
3. All situations are not created equal
4. STFU = SHUT THE F@CK UP
5. My ex-husband is NOT the enemy, some of my so-called friends were

This vid is a part of my Address NOT Suppress Series. Be sure to ck out the other vids here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrtlqyiDLW7jYABXF74TfnWtmJQsHjO96

Let me know what you think. Remember, ADDRESS NOT SUPPRESS. In order to heal, you gotta keep it real. –fee~ETT

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Author Imprints|Superstar Authors I Dig @sylviahubbard1 @kaiology @JPSimmons @Rayven_Skyy @pcbrown09 @TC_Mattison @SoulofaWriter

Happy Sunday!!! I hope you’re enjoying your weekend.

This video is dedicated to those authors who’ve left an imprint/impact on me. I began my author journey in 2010 and published my first book in August 2011. These are some of the authors who have offered words of advice in regards to publishing, editing, writing, etc., or who have not only supported my works, but have treated me like the person I am and not as “competition.”

So here goes….

* My author mentors – Sylvia Hubbard, Kai Mann, TC Mattison, Rayven Skyy

* Author imprints: Phoenix Brown, Jade Jones, Julia Press Simmons, Fabiola Joseph, Monique Mensah, Jumata Emil Jones

Check out the reviews I’ve written and links to the authors’ works:

REVIEW: STRAWBERRY MANSION BY JULIA PRESS SIMMONS ~ http://phetteogburn.com/2012/12/18/book-review-of-strawberry-mansion-by-julia-press-simmons-jpsimmons/

REVIEW: NEVER DEAD BY JUMATA EMILL JONES ~ http://phetteogburn.com/2012/08/23/my-book-review-of-never-dead-by-jumata-emill-jones-jumataemill/

REVIEW: DAMAGED GOODS BY PHOENIX BROWN ~ http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/495292972 –Damaged Goods review for Phoenix

REVIEW: TANGLED BY PHOENIX BROWN ~ http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/436998002 –Tangled

REVIEW: NO GOOD SPOUSES BY JADE JONES ~ http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/446831393 –No Good Spouses

REVIEW: RUMBLE IN VA BY RAYVEN SKYY ~ http://www.amazon.com/review/R3OMD821BBBOFR/ref=cm_cr_rdp_perm –Rumble

MENTOR PAGES
KAI MANN ~ http://kai-mann.com/

SYLVIA HUBBARD ~ http://sylviahubbard.com/ –The Literary Diva and Cliffhanger Queen

T.C. MATTISON ~ https://www.facebook.com/pages/TC-Mattison/131831333496152 –T.C. Mattison

RAYVEN SKYY ~ https://www.facebook.com/skyyrayven

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Are your words helping or hurting?|Watch your mouth!!! @phetteogburn #VerbalAbuse #TongueLashing

Hi!!!!

This episode is about watching the words that come out of your mouth. Are you mindful of what you say? Are your words healing or hurting people?

For many years, I was known for having a sharp tongue, cussing folks out and cutting them with my words. I often did this when I felt attacked, betrayed, used, or just downright slighted. And to think, once upon a time, I prided myself in being verbally abusive, thinking that doing so was much better than physically attacking someone.

WRONG

What people have said to me has had a greater impact than any fist fight I’ve been in.

Check out my vid to see what a former co-worker said to me over 10 years ago that lingered and stuck with me up until very recently. Choose your words carefully.

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Address NOT Suppress Healing Series: Family @phetteogburn

Hey y’all,

A few months ago, I announced on my YouTube Channel that I would be doing a series called Address NOT Suppress, a healing series. This series will essentially be documenting my healing journey and getting to the essence of being a better ME.

I saw a therapist yesterday, who I believe will not only help me address my issues, but also disrupt patterns and cycles that have kept me repeating unhealthy behaviors for several years.

I’ve chosen to share my journey with hopes of helping others become unstuck. As long as you have breath, it’s not too late. I have to do this, not only for me, but for my 2 girls, my 2 daughters, who are already displaying some behaviors that I know are being mimicked.

**Homework — Have you reached out to the person(s) who is evoking so much emotion, to let him/her know how you feel?

MY ANSWER – Yes, and it wasn’t received like I wanted it to be, thus why it still hurts.

Please check it out and let me know what you think. Remember, ADDRESS NOT SUPPRESS. In order to heal, you gotta keep it real. –fee~ETT

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