4 Lies We Tell Ourselves to Stay the #SideChick | #DustToSideChicks |Phette Hollins

Hey, Y’all heeeyyyyy!!!!

It’s been a minute, but I’m still here. I’ve been pretty active over on Facebook, and have been on an overall get FREE journey for the past few months. Not only the free that I speak about in my Get Naked Movement but free from debt AND from having to work a 9 to 5. So, I’ve been working hard ova here.

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But I cannot neglect my love for writing & sharing because, after all, sharing connects & heals us. While on my brief hiatus, I decided to add a lil intro, a blurb, a disclaimer to all of my posts, and as well as my videos. Here goes:

My name is Phette Hollins. I am an author, scriptwriter, and creator of the Get Naked Movement, where I share stories (mine & others) to help folks heal from the inside out. I am not a counselor, therapist, or psychologist, but I am an enthusiast who is passionate about healing & getting unstuck. 

Ok, now that that’s out of the way. Let’s dive in!

#4 I’m single and can do what I wanna do

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Yeah, that’s true to some degree, but not at someone else’s expense and when others are involved.

#3 He made the commitment to her, I didn’t


Ok, so, the reason why I’m talking about being the other woman is that I was the other woman, a lot. I was the other woman so much that I thought that was my destiny. Why else would I attract only married men? Like, why?

That was my mindset and a very corrupt one at that. I told myself that I had no reason to feel bad about sleeping with married men because HE was the one who was married, not me. He took the vows. He made the commitment. He walked down that aisle. He went to the Justice of the Peace. He…you get what I’m saying. I’m single and can do what I wanna do. That’s a lie.

#2 He loves me (more)


Granted, there are those times when a couple is separated and taking actions to get a divorce, and he leaves the marriage to be with the side chick. It happens. Like Alicia Keys & Swizz Beatz. But what I’m referring to is dealing with someone who’s blatantly telling you he’s not leaving his wife or telling you that he is but never does.

On top of that, he’s telling you that he loves you and if times were different y’all would be together and that he’s closer to you than his wife and…

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Don’t believe the hype!

Lastly, the number 1 biggest lie we tell ourselves when we’re the other woman is:

The wife should’ve been on her job!!!


I had to drop the pen on this one. I usually outline my blog posts, vlogs, live vids, etc., so that I can stay on task and not forget anything. As I wrote this last lie, I dropped the pen, you know, synonymous to dropping the mic.

This is the biggest lie. You wanna know why? Because it has nothing to do with the wife. Absolutely nothing. If that man wanted to leave, regardless of it’s “cheaper to keep her” or not, he would leave.


When we (I’m talking about as people) are done with something, we are done. It may take some of us longer to get there, but when we get there, it’s a wrap.

Just know that his wife could be cooking, cleaning, and catering to his every need and, if he wants to, he will cheat. Periodt. Got it?

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Don’t be fooled. Stop lying to yourselves and unblock your blessings so you can get the mate you want, the true love you deserve.

~Until next time…..


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