Get To Know Me | Phette Hollins

In an attempt to be more consistent and present, I posted video clips to my Instagram stories titled 3 Get To Know Me Facts. Here they are if you wanna check em out.

Absolutely Nobody:

Me: 3 Get To Know Me Facts:😂

1. I’ve been keeping a journal since I was 14 years old.

2. I used to have the biggest crush on Idris Elba back in 2006. So much so that I wanted to name my 13-year-old daughter after him.

3. I have over 20 tattoos. I legit stopped counting 🤷🏾‍♀️ To be totally transparent, while I do love body art, I got the majority of my tattoos bcz I didn’t know how to effectively process pain & confusion. It was an outlet for me, similar to those who turn to drugs, alcohol, food, & sex. When I was frustrated I would go get a tattoo. When I was mad, sad, or just plain ol bored I would get a tattoo. I’m a huge advocate of personal growth & development. It wasn’t until I started my healing journey 7 years ago that I began making the correlation between my behavior & my traumas. Now, I get tatted for a different reason, not for escapism.

Do you use stories on Instagram?

Why it’s important to know who YOU are | Phette Hollins


Just wanted to share with y’all a Facebook LIVE video I did that talks about the importance of knowing who you are so that you can show up in this world as the best version of yourself.

Many of us could avoid certain jobs, relationships, situations if we were clear about who we are. Period.

Check it out and let me know what you think!

Why telling your story matters | Phette Hollins

Hey y’all heeeyyy. Happy 2020!!!

If you follow me on social media &/or been following my blog over the years, I’m always preaching about how everyone has a story & how important it is to share it with the universe.

I was combing through my old videos on Periscope & came across this one I did 2 years ago.

We all have a story to tell…PERIOD! We all have something to share with that someone who is in a similar situation to yours and looking for the bright side. It doesn’t have to be this big ol grandiose story, neither.

If you’re a single mom who works two jobs and manages to meal prep and go to the gym 5 times a week, I’m sure there’s a stressed out mom waiting to hear your story for inspiration.

Check out the video –>> HERE!

Everything Is Working For Your Good, Even When It Doesn’t Look Like It | Phette Hollins

Hey y’all heeeyyy,

So, I posted a video on Facebook about my recent car debacle as a warning to women to watch out for car shops that try to scam us.

Thank God for my loving joyfriend and other male counsel who helped me navigate this situation. But it’s just truly unfortunate that there are people who do things like this purely for a buck.

Click on the image below to be taken to the video.

For the empath & highly sensitive person | by Phette Hollins

This is an episode on my podcast: Journey to Becoming.

Please click HERE to listen.

Testing out my new website

Hey y’all heeeyyy. There’s nothing to see here. Like, for real, nothing to see here. I’m just testing something out. 😊

See y’all soon.

Are you doing what you’re supposed to be doing? (Periscope Replay)|Phette Hollins

Click the link below to watch! 😉

Periscope Replay 

The FREE Webinar is tuh-NIGHT|#GetUnstuck & Write That Book|Phette Hollins

It’s here. It’s here. It’s finally here!!! Well, almost anyway. At 730pmEST, I’m going to talk about the 6 Reasons to Get Unstuck & Write That Book. Why? Simple answer, everyone has a book in them. What I’ve noticed is that many of us are stuck, for one reason or another. Maybe you don’t know where to start, or think that your story isn’t as interesting, juicy, or book-worthy as the others you’ve read. That’s so not the case.

When we operate in a place of “stuck”, we make no to minimal progress. We’re merely existing. We know that we can do better but we don’t.

People come to me and ask how am I able to share my stories and not care what people say. I just start singing, in my Jon B voice, “Don’t listen to what people say. They don’t know about, bout…” Yall remember that song? He had a point that Jon B.

This is how I knew that folks are stuck because they’re too busy worrying about folks passing judgment. Someone is waiting to hear your story, just like those of you who heard mine needed to.

I’m able to share my stories and not care about the shit talkers because I’m no longer stuck. No longer bound by shame, guilt, embarrassment. I can’t change my past so why dwell there?

Some of you have some amazing stories. How do I know? Because y’all tell me but are afraid to tell the world. And I get it. I was there before, too. At some point, though, you gotta let that ish goooo. Like Elsa said. LET. IT. GO.

SIGN UP. It’s FREE. Then join me Sept. 11, 2017 @730pmEST, which is tonight. Should be only about an hour. Bring the wine. I’ll bring the goodies. 😊😊😊

4 Reasons WHY You Shouldn’t Wanna Be a #SideChick | #DustToSideChicks |Phette Hollins

If you read my other post about side chicks, you’re probably wondering what the fascination is. There is none, really. I’m just writing what I know based on my experiences, with the hopes that someone can relate & escape that mental & emotional prison she’s in.

Over the last few years, I’ve been pretty transparent about what I’ve been through. By doing so, it has not only helped me heal & grow, it’s helped others as well. I started off vlogging on my YouTube Channel. You can check it out by clicking the link. Some of them are painful for me to watch simply because I remember the head space I was in during those times.

In the past, all I would attract were married men, unavailable men, unavailable people, actually. It became the norm for me, so I accepted it. I’m the type who believes that everything happens for a reason. And the fact that I kept attracting those kinds of people had to mean something, right? Well, it did.

It meant that I had to get to the core of my issues and assess the energy I was putting into the universe. I vlogged about my energy in a YouTube vid. < — Click & take a lookey.

You see, we get what we put out into the atmosphere. I was putting out (no pun intended) that I was emotionally unavailable and didn’t want a relationship because, low key, I didn’t trust anyone. So, guess what? I brought them to me, unknowingly.

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We attract who we are, not what we want

Here are the 4 reasons why you shouldn’t want to be a side chick:

#1  It’s degrading

Regardless of how glorified the media and your friends make it. There aren’t enough clothes, money, and trips that can compensate for your body and your worth.

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Which leads me to #2: It diminishes your self-WORTH

Settling to be a side piece says a lot about how you view yourself. It’s all about mindset. Once we know what we’re valued at, we will not discount ourselves. EVER!

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#3  It’s disrespectful

Not only are you disrespecting yourself by accepting mediocrity, you’re disrespecting that woman that he (and sometimes she) is committed to. At the end of the day, we have to do the right thing, even when others aren’t because, ultimately, it’s our cross to bear. They will get their turn come Judgment Day.

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#4  It’s lonely

Bonding, intimacy, and sex are all natural needs, wants, and desires. Shouldn’t we want those things from someone who is making us a priority instead of an option? He may shower you with gifts, give you money and even pay some of your bills, spend a little time wit’cha. But when he leaves, you’re left with just YOU. By yourself, wondering when the next phone call, text, or encounter is going to be.

Take it from a recovering (attention) whore, it’s not worth it. I know some of y’all may laugh at that, but the truth of it all is, many of us are attention whores. There’s nothing wrong with wanting attention because we all NEED it. Just like a plant needs water & sunlight in order for it to thrive and grow. That’s a form of attention.

It’s just that those of us who lack getting attention in a healthy manner, seek it by any means necessary, with little to no discretion as to who it comes from. Basically, it really doesn’t matter, as long as someone is paying us some attention, which is unhealthy.

That’s all I got. Those are the reasons why you don’t wanna be and shouldn’t wanna be someone’s option, afterthought, #2, or side chick.


~Until next time…

*Disclaimer: I am an author, scriptwriter, and creator of the Get Naked Movement, where I share stories (mine & others) to help folks heal from the inside out. I am not a counselor, therapist, or psychologist, but I am an enthusiast who is passionate about healing & getting unstuck.

Cutting Soul Ties (The Book) | 100 downloads |Phette Hollins

Hey hey hey,

On May 31st (my 42nd birthday) I released my 3rd book 3 Ways to Cut Soul Ties, and I am so proud. Yes, I am proud of my first two books as well. But the reason I am most proud of this book is that, unlike the others, this one is non-fiction and about specific periods in my life, not semi-autobiographical accounts. I get raw and #GetNaked. 🙂

Writing this book was cathartic. I released things that had been holding me back for years. No lie, after I decided to no longer be tied to certain people & things and wrote my truths, a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I felt it. I was free.

While I was repeating unhealthy patterns, I noticed that a lot of other folks were too. People opened up to me, shared their stories. I didn’t solicit them. They just felt lead to do so. I see that as a privilege, an honor and it’s something that I don’t take lightly.

Because of the countless conversations I’ve had with people, I know many of you are stuck and may benefit from reading 3 Ways to Cut Soul Ties.

If you are:

Repeating unhealthy patterns

Linked to someone who is not your mate

Straddling the fence and unsure of your worth

This book is for you. Sometimes it’s hard for us to see the magnitude of a situation while we’re knee deep in it. When we see someone else has gone through a similar situation and persevered, it gives us hope.

When I would hear folks’ stories about abuse and neglect and how they overcame those things, I knew that I had to get to the root of my issues by getting real honest with myself about what was holding me back from the career I wanted, having good credit and just a healthy relationship with money period, as well as meaningful relationships with people.

I now know that getting, having, and keeping those things are possible when you do the work.

I want to reach 100 downloads. Get people talking about cutting soul ties. It’s available on Amazon and Nook for just $6.99. That’s it.

Share with those you know who need to CUT IT. Share with those who will benefit. Better yet, gift it to 5 people and be like “Merry Christmas, Happy Birthday.”

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We’re more productive and better as humans when we’re not bound, tied, and chained to something or someone. That statement has multiple connotations but ultimately mean the same thing. Get your dirty mind out the gutter LOL.



~Until next time…

*Disclaimer: I am an author, scriptwriter, and creator of the Get Naked Movement, where I share stories (mine & others) to help folks heal from the inside out. I am not a counselor, therapist, or psychologist, but I am an enthusiast who is passionate about healing & getting unstuck.

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