I’ve moved around A LOT as an adult. No place ever felt like home. I now know that that’s bcz I was unsettled in my spirit. It didn’t matter if I was in a big house, small house, apartment, or townhome, nowhere ever felt…right.
Folks judge me bcz of it & I hi-key used to have some embarrassment & shame about it, too. But, here’s the thing, we never know what people are really going through. Folks only show you what they want you to see…bcz if we’re being judged by the superficial shit, imagine what folks would think if they truly knew the real deal.
That’s why it’s important to have people around that will pour into you, support you, SEE YOU…have grace, empathy, understanding.
I moved into a new place last week, which makes this my 6th time moving in 8 years &, I must say that my soul finally feels at ease, settled. I returned to my childhood neighborhood, the place where I inherited, acquired wounds around scarcity, poverty, lack, & money. This was designed so that I could do what I’m always preaching, which is to #HealThatShit.
The message that’s in my spirit today is thinking outside the box. We hear it all of the time & maybe even feel like we are doing so. I know I did. I’m always talking about authenticity & being true to yourself & be you & do you…but guess what? These last several months, I’ve been struggling. Struggling with the age old question: WHO AM I? Crazy, right? Crazy bcz I’ve been showing up on this blog fervently, albeit, intermittently these last 10 years. Sharing my stories, opening up, being a little bit transparent. Meaning, I’ve definitely got more work to do but I’m willing to do it 💪🏾
But lately, I’ve been stifled, stuck. Feeling like an imposter. Mainly bcz I’ve been trying to put what I do neatly into a box. Looking at folks on social media who are actors, writers, coaches, or those who are able to say with specificity who they are & what they do. This took me down the comparison rabbit hole.
I am a Writer, an Intuitive Life Coach, a Consultant, a Messenger, a Healer, a Connector…all the things. In a nutshell —-I’m a Multi-hyphenate, like Debbie Allen & so many others. A friend of mine tagged me in the speech Mrs. Allen gave at the Emmys, saying that it’s our time to shine, step up, show up. That message couldn’t have come at a more divine time.
But as you can see, all of those titles take up a lot of space in an Instagram bio &, according to strategists & marketing gurus, you must state clearly in ONE WORD who you are & what you do in 100 characters or less. This has been stressing me the fuck out & causing me to question myself, shrink, hide, minimize.
Then I told myself that it’s more than ok to be exactly who I am. It’s ok to be all the things & to not let society or anyone tell me who to be or how I should be packaged. All I have to do is show up & own all that is me, unapologetically!
If you’re also multi-passionate & multi-talented & have been doubting your gifts, dimming your light, trying to stuff your YOUness in a perfect little box remember this:
Give yourself permission to be creative, to express & to try on all the things without guilt or shame. Be the you that only you can be.
If you’ve been following me for some time then you’ll remember when I had a LIVE show on Facebook called Brown Beauties Talk.
It’s a show my good friend Lavyana & I created where we talked about not only being single & dating but also love, life & relationships.
The show took off ✈ So fast that we got overwhelmed & couldn’t keep up with the demand.
But, over the years, folks couldn’t stop talking about it so we thought 🤔…maybe we should bring BBT back.
After mulling it over for 2 1/2 years, we decided to do just that!!!!
Both Lavyana & I have been working, individually on ourselves while simultaneously building our business & brand. I am excited that we can now show up fully for yall, our peeps, our family, our tribe in our greatest expression as Intimacy Coaches & Sensual Doulas (doesn’t that sound sexy 😉)? Because, at the end of the day, we just want to help women heal our wombs so that we can get the love & life we WANT…
We did a soft launch last week that was well received. It felt good to get the energy & love from yall 💜💛💜
We’re going LIVE TUH-NIGHT on Facebook to discuss SEX & all its taboo’ness & to see what yall have to say about whether or not it’s overrated. This is going to be juicy!
The Journey to Becoming podcast has a NEW location. It’s still on the Anchor platform but also has been integrated into my website. I created another Anchor account to do so. So, going forward, the podcast will be housed on my website AND HERE — anchor.fm/phette-hollins