In celebration of my 45th birthday, here are 45 things I’ve learned over the years| Phette Hollins

1. Love who you see in the mirror 2. Don’t chase love(rs)3. Forgive your parents 4. Trust your intuition5. Don’t take things personally 6. Laugh a lot7. Smile more 8. Be honest9. Don’t speak when angry10. Not everybody is your friend 11. Action speaks louder than words12. Teach people how to treat you13. You areContinue reading “In celebration of my 45th birthday, here are 45 things I’ve learned over the years| Phette Hollins”

Power of the P(*$$y): An Ode to Blanche Devereaux by Phette Hollins

I was a precocious kid, well beyond my years. I used to pick up on stuff that I probably shouldn’t have. Like, when I was 10 years old and used to watch The Golden Girls, I knew that Blanche Devereaux was pegged as a hoe and that folks tried to make her feel bad aboutContinue reading “Power of the P(*$$y): An Ode to Blanche Devereaux by Phette Hollins”

Why telling your story matters | Phette Hollins

Hey y’all heeeyyy. Happy 2020!!! If you follow me on social media &/or been following my blog over the years, I’m always preaching about how everyone has a story & how important it is to share it with the universe. I was combing through my old videos on Periscope & came across this one IContinue reading “Why telling your story matters | Phette Hollins”

4 Reasons WHY You Shouldn’t Wanna Be a #SideChick | #DustToSideChicks |Phette Hollins

If you read my other post about side chicks, you’re probably wondering what the fascination is. There is none, really. I’m just writing what I know based on my experiences, with the hopes that someone can relate & escape that mental & emotional prison she’s in. Over the last few years, I’ve been pretty transparentContinue reading “4 Reasons WHY You Shouldn’t Wanna Be a #SideChick | #DustToSideChicks |Phette Hollins”

Change your priorities, change your life | Phette Hollins 

I saw this meme the other day: Before my healing journey my priorities were all jacked up. My main focus was romantic relationships because I craved attention. But when you start healing one thing, it carries over to other areas. I started off wanting to heal because pain kept showing up in patterns. I wasContinue reading “Change your priorities, change your life | Phette Hollins “

The #GetNaked Movement Casting Call/Taping

Even with my affinity for words, I haven’t found the right words to describe my excitement about The #GetNakedMovement Casting Call/Taping. So, I’ll just express it with gifs. Because, I have an affinity for those as well. The #GetNakedMovement (TGNM) is a collection of stories told by those who have identified & addressed their issuesContinue reading “The #GetNaked Movement Casting Call/Taping”

If you lost your virginity @11 yrs old, you’d be effed up, too | #DiggingInTheBag |@phettehollins #DITB

Digging in the bag is metaphoric for Digging in the soul. What I discovered as I was scavenging through old photos was how different I was “back then.” Of course, as time progresses the hope is to grow. But sadly, some folks don’t. They stay stuck, stagnant. I want to take the time to celebrate growth…andContinue reading “If you lost your virginity @11 yrs old, you’d be effed up, too | #DiggingInTheBag |@phettehollins #DITB”

Ray of Clouds #Ninja4 | #DiggingInTheBag |@phettehollins #DITB

Unlike my last post, *you can read it –> HERE <–*, I got permission to post the photos I’m about to post without having to mask the face. The ones you see with the masks are, in this case, innocent bystanders. 🙂 OK, HERE IT GOES… I got so many pictures of this dude I had toContinue reading “Ray of Clouds #Ninja4 | #DiggingInTheBag |@phettehollins #DITB”

I live with my baby mama but I swear on my kids we ain’t f@cking – #Ninja2 | #LetItPurge #PurgeItThursday #DiggingInTheBag | @phettehollins #DITB

Purge 1. to rid of whatever is impure or undesirable; cleanse; purify. 2. to rid, clear, or free (usually followed by of or from). ~Dictionary.com Stories connect & heal us. Sometimes we’re stuck and don’t even know it. It becomes a new normal. Second nature. But if you find that you keep ending up inContinue reading “I live with my baby mama but I swear on my kids we ain’t f@cking – #Ninja2 | #LetItPurge #PurgeItThursday #DiggingInTheBag | @phettehollins #DITB”

Detox: For real for real, this time : Day 2 #WritingThroughIt | @phettehollins

Blocked your calls. Blocked your text messages… but I know you’re messaging. Work…phone…write…phone…sleep…Netflix…check blocked messages…write…eat…phone…check blocked messages…check blocked messages…sleep…check blocked messages. #repeat Blocked your calls. Blocked your text messages…but I know you’re messaging. slowly…blocking…you! *Disclaimer: My #WritingThroughIt posts are raw emotions with very little editing. I’m not super pressed about grammar, but will give theContinue reading “Detox: For real for real, this time : Day 2 #WritingThroughIt | @phettehollins”